YAY!!!!!! Got my husband home for a couple of days!!! He got in Friday afternoon around 3ish and left out yesterday, Sunday, around 6:30PM. Won't see him again until the 28th. Bummer! So what do we do to make the most of our time???
Well, since he was gong to be home Friday afternoon I went out and did all his shopping for out on the road, came home and began to get it ready for him. Then after I picked him up....It was all about US! No kids at home anymore so we watched Desperate Housewives that we had on the DVR so he could catch up and then we rented a movie. Saturday was all about doing NOTHING! Sunday we got his soda for when he is out and then bummed around the mall and a few other stores. We ended up shopping for new cupboards...Now to put the $$$ aside to get them.
So that is about how all our weekends are when he is home. TIME TOGETHER!!!!
Monday, January 10, 2011
Thursday, January 6, 2011
How do you know LOVE is real?
How do you know when LOVE is real? Pretty heavy question there isn't it? I was married once before at a pretty young age. Did I know what real love was? Was I old enough to grasp what it truly meant to love someone completely? Looking back the answer is NO! I thought I was in love and in a young person's way I did love my husband, but was I truly IN love with him??? I never knew that answer until I met my currnet husband.
My current husband was introduced to me in 1985. At that time I was just in High School and he was married with 2 kids! He marched Drum and Bugle Corps with my Father and was at our house with another member of the corps. What did I think of him? BIG, FAT, BLOWHARD! I couldn't stand him!
In 2003 I went to a Drum Corps rehearsal. (18 years from when I had first met Tom.) He approached me and introduced himself (it had been so many years since the first brief introduction he didn't know who I was). Good God really??? This ASS with the gnarly ponytail thinks I care who HE is?? Oh please.... I told him who I was and who my Father was and he turned on his heel and walked away. Thank God, or so I thought. Well, he had a different plan.
After a few rehearsals he would talk to me and I started to get to know him. Hmmmm...This guy is actually intelligent. He asked me in an email if he had a shot with me to which I relied, no, but we can be friends. OMG...Crushed! We continued to talk and I would go out with others from the Corps to where he was a DJ. He would start playing all kinds of slow music and ask me to dance all the time. He also tried to sneak kissed to me and I would turn my head and tell him not to push it. One day he showed up to rehearsal and he had cut his ponytail off and was all cleaned up. Hmmm...Might be a Big boy, but he's kinda cute. We talked more and more and he found every way possible to be with me. He didn't have a car at the time so he would intentionally miss the bus and call me for a ride or show up at a club where he knew I'd be and dance every slow dance with me. EVERYONE saw he was falling hard but me.
This went on for several months. Cat and Mouse and I just couldn't shake him. All the people in the Corps begged me to give him a shot. Finally one evening we were walking to get breakfast after being at the club and he said to me, "I just can't do this friend thing anymore. It's all or nothing>" OMG...I was falling for him. That was the very moment I actually figured out I was really FALLING for him. Crap! What to do now? I don't want to lose him, but am I really ready to be in another relationship yet? At breakfast I said, "OK, let's see where this goes."
We talked often through that next week and then the weekend came around. I went to the club he was working at and after he was done we went for a drive. We sat on the Bluffs and talked for hours. Then next thing I knew we were having our FIRST kiss. OMG....THIS IS REAL LOVE!!!!!! ( mind you, it took me 34 year to finally figure it out.) The whole cliche about fireworks and butterflies in your tummy??? It is TRUE when you are really in love. It was right then and there I knew I would do anything for this man. I would lay my life down for him is I had to. OMG this is amazing!!!!!!
So I have finally learned what REAL LOVE is. It is putting the other person before yourself. It is supporting their every decision. It is completely unconditional. AND it only works if it is a two way street. I KNOW my husband LOVES me with all his heart. I KNOW he has eyes for no other woman. I KNOW he supports my every decision. And I do the same for him.
I thank God everyday for this Man who I married 5 years ago. I am proud to be his wife and can't imagine wife without him. I look forward to him coming home from the road and spending every waking minute with him. When he is home we are inseparable.
My current husband was introduced to me in 1985. At that time I was just in High School and he was married with 2 kids! He marched Drum and Bugle Corps with my Father and was at our house with another member of the corps. What did I think of him? BIG, FAT, BLOWHARD! I couldn't stand him!
In 2003 I went to a Drum Corps rehearsal. (18 years from when I had first met Tom.) He approached me and introduced himself (it had been so many years since the first brief introduction he didn't know who I was). Good God really??? This ASS with the gnarly ponytail thinks I care who HE is?? Oh please.... I told him who I was and who my Father was and he turned on his heel and walked away. Thank God, or so I thought. Well, he had a different plan.
After a few rehearsals he would talk to me and I started to get to know him. Hmmmm...This guy is actually intelligent. He asked me in an email if he had a shot with me to which I relied, no, but we can be friends. OMG...Crushed! We continued to talk and I would go out with others from the Corps to where he was a DJ. He would start playing all kinds of slow music and ask me to dance all the time. He also tried to sneak kissed to me and I would turn my head and tell him not to push it. One day he showed up to rehearsal and he had cut his ponytail off and was all cleaned up. Hmmm...Might be a Big boy, but he's kinda cute. We talked more and more and he found every way possible to be with me. He didn't have a car at the time so he would intentionally miss the bus and call me for a ride or show up at a club where he knew I'd be and dance every slow dance with me. EVERYONE saw he was falling hard but me.
This went on for several months. Cat and Mouse and I just couldn't shake him. All the people in the Corps begged me to give him a shot. Finally one evening we were walking to get breakfast after being at the club and he said to me, "I just can't do this friend thing anymore. It's all or nothing>" OMG...I was falling for him. That was the very moment I actually figured out I was really FALLING for him. Crap! What to do now? I don't want to lose him, but am I really ready to be in another relationship yet? At breakfast I said, "OK, let's see where this goes."
We talked often through that next week and then the weekend came around. I went to the club he was working at and after he was done we went for a drive. We sat on the Bluffs and talked for hours. Then next thing I knew we were having our FIRST kiss. OMG....THIS IS REAL LOVE!!!!!! ( mind you, it took me 34 year to finally figure it out.) The whole cliche about fireworks and butterflies in your tummy??? It is TRUE when you are really in love. It was right then and there I knew I would do anything for this man. I would lay my life down for him is I had to. OMG this is amazing!!!!!!
So I have finally learned what REAL LOVE is. It is putting the other person before yourself. It is supporting their every decision. It is completely unconditional. AND it only works if it is a two way street. I KNOW my husband LOVES me with all his heart. I KNOW he has eyes for no other woman. I KNOW he supports my every decision. And I do the same for him.
I thank God everyday for this Man who I married 5 years ago. I am proud to be his wife and can't imagine wife without him. I look forward to him coming home from the road and spending every waking minute with him. When he is home we are inseparable.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Out my back door with 2010
2010 is over, gone and things can't be changed. The past is the past and forward is the only way to go.
We had a pretty uneventful year. Tom was out on the road, I was here at home, but a few things did happen that are noteworthy.
In June our car was totaled and we took the settlement for it and bought each of our boys a car. T.J. got a 2000 Grand AM and Joshua a Saturn SC1. Sweet little sporty cars!
Our oldest boy, T.J., graduated from High School this year! It seems like just yesterday I brought him home from the hospital. In August I moved him to his college dorm and set him on his path to his future. I am so proud of the man he has become. Yes, he still irritates me, but no more than any other kids who knows everything does. LOL I wish him all the luck in the world!
Our youngest boy, Joshua, had a good year and is now a senior in High School. Again, where has the time gone? In August Josh had a terrible car accident. His vehicle was hit and he was knocked out cold and hit a tree (after crossing into on coming traffic and going through a yard and a fence). The tree was a 30 foot pine and the impact pushed it right over. Mind you, he was driving a little sports car. I got the call about it and from 20 blocks away I could see all the emergency vehicles. On that night someone was looking over all the kids in the car. BOTH of my boys were in it, Joshua's girlfriend, and another 2 friends. The only injury??? One broken wrist. God is good!
I got a horse years ago from my husband and she was very young at the time. She was too young to ride so I have been working with her on other training things. This past summer I FINALLY rode her for the first time! It was so exciting to see how well she did.
Other than that excitement???? Oh, I know! Our Daughter, Jessica, was in Erie around Christmas. So was her sister Ashley. Tom and I wanted so badly to see our Grand kids so we invited the girls over to the house to visit with us and Tom's Mom. Well, Jessica, of course, came over with Jasmine and we had a wonderful evening. Ashley and her Father had a falling out a few years back and she refused. He has reached out many times to her and just keeps getting his hand bit. I pray someday they will come together again. There is a third child of his too, but she is pretty much a lost cause. Again, Tom has reached out and the kid is too busy in her won little world. She tells her Grandmother to have him call her, but she only says that because she knows that is what her Grandmother wants to hear. So sad too.
We also lost my Uncle this year very suddenly. He was diagnosed with cancer and never got to go back home, He was in the hospital a month and then was gone. It was so aggressive we never had time to prepare. We miss him everyday.
So that about covers our year. See, not much happens around here. LOL Hope 2011 brings better days.
We had a pretty uneventful year. Tom was out on the road, I was here at home, but a few things did happen that are noteworthy.
In June our car was totaled and we took the settlement for it and bought each of our boys a car. T.J. got a 2000 Grand AM and Joshua a Saturn SC1. Sweet little sporty cars!
Our oldest boy, T.J., graduated from High School this year! It seems like just yesterday I brought him home from the hospital. In August I moved him to his college dorm and set him on his path to his future. I am so proud of the man he has become. Yes, he still irritates me, but no more than any other kids who knows everything does. LOL I wish him all the luck in the world!
Our youngest boy, Joshua, had a good year and is now a senior in High School. Again, where has the time gone? In August Josh had a terrible car accident. His vehicle was hit and he was knocked out cold and hit a tree (after crossing into on coming traffic and going through a yard and a fence). The tree was a 30 foot pine and the impact pushed it right over. Mind you, he was driving a little sports car. I got the call about it and from 20 blocks away I could see all the emergency vehicles. On that night someone was looking over all the kids in the car. BOTH of my boys were in it, Joshua's girlfriend, and another 2 friends. The only injury??? One broken wrist. God is good!
I got a horse years ago from my husband and she was very young at the time. She was too young to ride so I have been working with her on other training things. This past summer I FINALLY rode her for the first time! It was so exciting to see how well she did.
Other than that excitement???? Oh, I know! Our Daughter, Jessica, was in Erie around Christmas. So was her sister Ashley. Tom and I wanted so badly to see our Grand kids so we invited the girls over to the house to visit with us and Tom's Mom. Well, Jessica, of course, came over with Jasmine and we had a wonderful evening. Ashley and her Father had a falling out a few years back and she refused. He has reached out many times to her and just keeps getting his hand bit. I pray someday they will come together again. There is a third child of his too, but she is pretty much a lost cause. Again, Tom has reached out and the kid is too busy in her won little world. She tells her Grandmother to have him call her, but she only says that because she knows that is what her Grandmother wants to hear. So sad too.
We also lost my Uncle this year very suddenly. He was diagnosed with cancer and never got to go back home, He was in the hospital a month and then was gone. It was so aggressive we never had time to prepare. We miss him everyday.
So that about covers our year. See, not much happens around here. LOL Hope 2011 brings better days.
Monday, January 3, 2011
Life gets lonely when you are a trucker's wife
Well, I figure this may be the perfect way to pass the time since my husband is out on the road for 3 to 4 weeks at a time. He runs all 48 states, hauling loads coast to coast and this is how it began...
In January 2003 I met this really great guy. A man who rocked my world and made me the happiest I had ever been. We moved in together in August 2003 and decided to see where things went from there. My children loved him and he LOVED having the little boys he never had. He bounced around to a few different jobs and then we talked about his desire to drive truck. He said he had always wanted to do it, but was never married to anyone he could trust enough to be gone that long from. Well, first off he started driving school buses and got his Class B CDL. First baby step.
In 2004 he proposed to me. Oh, my ring was the prettiest I had ever seen. He and my boys took me out to dinner and he popped the question. (He was really upset that I knew the waiter through my Mother and that that said waiter, he felt, took away his romantic moment, by dropping by the table at that exact moment.) He got over it, so off we went making wedding plans...
As we were making these BIG plans we were also talking and tossing around the idea of Tom going to trucking school. We looked over several schools, but wanted to wait until after our wedding.
In September 2005 we had a fairytale wedding. Beautiful church service, lots of friends and family and the reception venue was to die for. I don't think either of our feet ever touched the ground that day. A Week later we went on our honeymoon and had the time of our lives....Then reality when we got home. Time to choose a school for Tom.
We did even more research, looked at and talked to recruiters from so many different schools I lost track of who was who. Then one day Tom came home and said he made up his mind. He plays the bugle and had been out playing a military funeral that day. The cemetery was right next to the thru-way and he saw one companies truck go by over and over again. This assured him that he would be able to get home since they ran strong in this area.
Early 2006 he was off to school and gone for, if I remember right 6 weeks. SIX WEEKS?!?!?! OMG!!! Well, while it was tough we talked everyday on the phone and right before he graduated I packed up my truck and drove down to Millington, TN (Memphis area) so be there when he did. He then came home with me for a few days and back out again with a trainer for another SIX weeks. Screw that! THREE weeks into that deal I was back in the truck and driving to Maryland just to get ONE night with him! LOL
Now he has been driving ever since, started with SWIFT and was a trainer for them, came to a local company called Troyer Transportation (didn't get enough miles to make money) and is now with Shaffer and a trainer for them. I have become accustomed to his being gone so much, but I do still have down days. Days where I feel my right arm is gone.
We are each others rock, the one we cry with when we are lonesome and when we just want for him to be home NOW! LOL This blog is dedicated to my loving, strong, handsome and just all around amazing Truckin' "Daddy"...I love you baby!
Just a picture of my husband's truck down in Cleveland, TN.
In January 2003 I met this really great guy. A man who rocked my world and made me the happiest I had ever been. We moved in together in August 2003 and decided to see where things went from there. My children loved him and he LOVED having the little boys he never had. He bounced around to a few different jobs and then we talked about his desire to drive truck. He said he had always wanted to do it, but was never married to anyone he could trust enough to be gone that long from. Well, first off he started driving school buses and got his Class B CDL. First baby step.
In 2004 he proposed to me. Oh, my ring was the prettiest I had ever seen. He and my boys took me out to dinner and he popped the question. (He was really upset that I knew the waiter through my Mother and that that said waiter, he felt, took away his romantic moment, by dropping by the table at that exact moment.) He got over it, so off we went making wedding plans...
As we were making these BIG plans we were also talking and tossing around the idea of Tom going to trucking school. We looked over several schools, but wanted to wait until after our wedding.
In September 2005 we had a fairytale wedding. Beautiful church service, lots of friends and family and the reception venue was to die for. I don't think either of our feet ever touched the ground that day. A Week later we went on our honeymoon and had the time of our lives....Then reality when we got home. Time to choose a school for Tom.
We did even more research, looked at and talked to recruiters from so many different schools I lost track of who was who. Then one day Tom came home and said he made up his mind. He plays the bugle and had been out playing a military funeral that day. The cemetery was right next to the thru-way and he saw one companies truck go by over and over again. This assured him that he would be able to get home since they ran strong in this area.
Early 2006 he was off to school and gone for, if I remember right 6 weeks. SIX WEEKS?!?!?! OMG!!! Well, while it was tough we talked everyday on the phone and right before he graduated I packed up my truck and drove down to Millington, TN (Memphis area) so be there when he did. He then came home with me for a few days and back out again with a trainer for another SIX weeks. Screw that! THREE weeks into that deal I was back in the truck and driving to Maryland just to get ONE night with him! LOL
Now he has been driving ever since, started with SWIFT and was a trainer for them, came to a local company called Troyer Transportation (didn't get enough miles to make money) and is now with Shaffer and a trainer for them. I have become accustomed to his being gone so much, but I do still have down days. Days where I feel my right arm is gone.
We are each others rock, the one we cry with when we are lonesome and when we just want for him to be home NOW! LOL This blog is dedicated to my loving, strong, handsome and just all around amazing Truckin' "Daddy"...I love you baby!
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