My current husband was introduced to me in 1985. At that time I was just in High School and he was married with 2 kids! He marched Drum and Bugle Corps with my Father and was at our house with another member of the corps. What did I think of him? BIG, FAT, BLOWHARD! I couldn't stand him!
In 2003 I went to a Drum Corps rehearsal. (18 years from when I had first met Tom.) He approached me and introduced himself (it had been so many years since the first brief introduction he didn't know who I was). Good God really??? This ASS with the gnarly ponytail thinks I care who HE is?? Oh please.... I told him who I was and who my Father was and he turned on his heel and walked away. Thank God, or so I thought. Well, he had a different plan.
After a few rehearsals he would talk to me and I started to get to know him. Hmmmm...This guy is actually intelligent. He asked me in an email if he had a shot with me to which I relied, no, but we can be friends. OMG...Crushed! We continued to talk and I would go out with others from the Corps to where he was a DJ. He would start playing all kinds of slow music and ask me to dance all the time. He also tried to sneak kissed to me and I would turn my head and tell him not to push it. One day he showed up to rehearsal and he had cut his ponytail off and was all cleaned up. Hmmm...Might be a Big boy, but he's kinda cute. We talked more and more and he found every way possible to be with me. He didn't have a car at the time so he would intentionally miss the bus and call me for a ride or show up at a club where he knew I'd be and dance every slow dance with me. EVERYONE saw he was falling hard but me.
This went on for several months. Cat and Mouse and I just couldn't shake him. All the people in the Corps begged me to give him a shot. Finally one evening we were walking to get breakfast after being at the club and he said to me, "I just can't do this friend thing anymore. It's all or nothing>" OMG...I was falling for him. That was the very moment I actually figured out I was really FALLING for him. Crap! What to do now? I don't want to lose him, but am I really ready to be in another relationship yet? At breakfast I said, "OK, let's see where this goes."
We talked often through that next week and then the weekend came around. I went to the club he was working at and after he was done we went for a drive. We sat on the Bluffs and talked for hours. Then next thing I knew we were having our FIRST kiss. OMG....THIS IS REAL LOVE!!!!!! ( mind you, it took me 34 year to finally figure it out.) The whole cliche about fireworks and butterflies in your tummy??? It is TRUE when you are really in love. It was right then and there I knew I would do anything for this man. I would lay my life down for him is I had to. OMG this is amazing!!!!!!
So I have finally learned what REAL LOVE is. It is putting the other person before yourself. It is supporting their every decision. It is completely unconditional. AND it only works if it is a two way street. I KNOW my husband LOVES me with all his heart. I KNOW he has eyes for no other woman. I KNOW he supports my every decision. And I do the same for him.
I thank God everyday for this Man who I married 5 years ago. I am proud to be his wife and can't imagine wife without him. I look forward to him coming home from the road and spending every waking minute with him. When he is home we are inseparable.
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